I remember when I did not yet have my child, and I would always write the mothers who were talking about the things their children had done. Sometimes I engaged in conversations, but always from the point of view of the one whose experience had taken care of a cousin or a friend. At the time, it was almost annoying to find an individual in the company of a group of mothers, because all they ever did was talk about their children. Conversations would be appropriate; What the child did at any age, the foods they liked or disliked, the sleepless nights that mothers did when a child or child fell ill and and so on. So many times, the rest of us, without children, would be left out and start our own conversations, or we would walk around to find something better to take care of.
Later, when I had a child, I realized that these mothers did not intend to leave us out of their conversations; This has occurred naturally and unconsciously. Without wanting to, I found that I could not stop thinking about my child, whether it was well, whether she was well fed well and at the right time, or whether her diaper had been Changed and something else. When these are the dominant thoughts in mind, the conversations that follow automatically focus on that.
Maternity does not stop at childbirth. From the first day of the child 's life, a mother begins to be formed by an invisible power, to feel when a child needs to be fed or if the layers need to be altered. What amazes me today is how a mother will know the sound of her child 's voice among many other voices. For example, I would always feel intrigued when, in a sea of babies, on the day of a vaccination at the hospital, a mother left her child to the caretaker and went to the counter for some thing. Then suddenly, a number of babies begin to cry and get out of those, she underlines the cry of hers. Another example is when visitors would come home, there would be a lot of gossip and noise, but by that I could tell when the baby cried in the room. By checking, she would have woken up.
Then come days and nights of stress when a baby has a fever or infection or has a blocked nose. Oh! Every mother goes through these moments and it is intriguing to find that even without prior training she will always be alert and on her feet to ensure that the baby is as comfortable as possible. I remember one of those days when my child had a higher than normal temperature; 39 ° C (degrees centigrade). The normal temperature of a baby is 36.4 ° C / 37 ° C, depending on whether the thermometer is placed in the ear, tongue or under the arm. That day, like so many others who followed, I always controlled the baby's temperature, placing a damp cloth on his forehead to lower "burning". Now, I have learned that even when the doctor has assured me that everything will be fine, that did not prevent me from being anxious. Usually, a baby goes well during the day and seems to fall asleep at night; So the stress levels of the mother.
It is a duty of the mother to stand almost all night to continue checking the baby. All her baby's light sound will wake her up even if the baby sighs. When one goes through so many sleepless nights because of the welfare of a child, it is a true maternity. This does not stop here, as the baby develops through the different stages, there are other challenges in the sense that a mother finds herself mixing. This does not mean that motherhood concerns the child who cries and falls ill. There are many happy moments that are more than the tough times.
For example, watching a baby smile for the very first time is a joyful feeling for the mother. I do not take this for granted because it gives a warm and comforting time that lasts forever. The first teeth of a child grow, first time to crawl, first time to stand, the first steps, the list goes on. When you experience all these things first hand, they stay with the person and can not be exchanged for sure.
I also learned that after childhood, a mother worried about knowing that she / he is receiving a balanced diet. She worries that her child has the best education, wearing the best clothes, interacting with the right people and learning good morals. Everything the mother tends to be for the child in that if one does not pay attention, she begins to neglect her own well – being. I have seen this happen many times when I would sacrifice the purchase of a good perfume and would choose to buy shoes for my child. Or do not buy a type of food that my child does not eat, but rather get something that he will eat wholeheartedly.
It is true that the experience is the best teacher because even motherhood teaches skills and lessons that are not learned in a classroom.